My Confession – I Gotta Get This Off My Chest

I shot this difficult video yesterday and it is literally going viral. It has over 7,000 views, 10 shares, 3,000 interactions and I have received over 100 private messages and emails.

The takeaway for me is that life comes at us fast & furious. We all get kicked in the gut ( and the head ) to the point where we believe our best days are behind us. What we do at that point could determine our destiny.

We have two choices.. are going to get back up and keep moving forward? or not?

And when people realize that I ( and others ) made it through life’s toughest challenges.. it gives them hope that they can too.

Please watch the video below. It is over 11 minutes but well worth the investment of your time. Over people messaged me to tell me that it was my best, most empowering video of all time.

Please share this with someone who needs to hear it. You never know.. it could be just the thing to get them through a tough patch in their life… I love you.. but most importantly, I want you to grow towards loving yourself..

kind regards,


12 thoughts on “My Confession – I Gotta Get This Off My Chest”

  1. Hi Darin! Thank you for sharing such a personal video with us. You are human, just like the rest of us, and are doing your best each and every day. Even though we have never met in person, I know that you have a great heart and wonderful spirit! Keep taking care of yourself and your girls and wonderful things will happen. God is with you my friend! Love and hugs from Cleveland, Ohio. 🙂

    Deb S.

    1. Ahhh Bless you Deb.. my sister’s name is Debbie.. so I always light up when I hear the name Debbie.. it has always been Debbie and Darin..

  2. To: “”
    Well Darin, let me tell you in a nutshell where I am in my life…

    • My name is James Palermo, I turned 51 on April 13th

    • I have been working at The University of Chicago for 16 years, and the last 2 in a position that I thought was definitely better financially, but it turn out that I am miserable lately in this new position of 3 years this September. I am totally unfulfilled, which had weighed very heavy on my psyche.

    • I have been trying to turn my life around so that I can be happy as I am truly blessed with my wife & kids along with my family (mom & dad, in-laws) as well, but it has been most challenging as of late because of how unhappy I am with where I am in my life: Career (Job), Financially, Physically… Although I have been working on improving things following the Hal Elrod’s “The Miracle Morning” Life S.A.V.E.R.S.” routine of Meditation, Affirmations, Visualizations, Exercise, Reading, and Scribing (Journaling) in no particular order.

    • I have been working on my spirituality: I have been volunteering my time every Monday at night as a Table Lead for the Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University (FPU) class at Parkview, the same that my wife & I took last year that has just opened up my eyes wide about finances and helping others. This has also caused us to attend Parkview on a regular basis and we love it and look forward to every weekend.

    • I sit at a desk all day and I know that is not healthy so I just had work order me a varidesk ( ), but I need to change my life and Job !

    You were truly inspirational to me when we meet at LifeTime when you drove your Vette, and I won the FatFest contest at work loosing 33lbs. in 3 months and you told me with all conviction; “Use this as a stepping stone to the next phase of your life, don’t stop here!” But unfortunately I did stop…

    Maybe you can help…

    This was your response:
    Hi John,

    I’m thrilled to let you know that you’ve been selected to be one of our beta testers!

    After your thoughtful e-mail it was a no-brainer. I’m sorry to hear about the job and financial struggles, my friend. But I’m glad you’re being proactive and realize everything is interconnected. I look forward to helping you get back on that positive path of stones. I know you can do it!

    Your unique one-time promo code is “JAMESPALERMO”. This will give you access to my best product at 90% off.

    Please keep in touch and let me know if you have any questions!

    Yours Truly,


    P.S. Here’s a link to the course with your unique promo code applied.

    I first want to say thank you for replying to my email, (even though my name is Jim), you took the time to reply and i really appreciate that, and I did purchase the Udemy course as well. I also want to say thank you for opening up, thank you for showing me (us) that our SUPER HERO (Darin) is actually human, he is just like us! And know that makes a lot of people feel good… Me included. Thanks for sharing your pain, and i feel bleeded that we meet at Lifetime many years ago, and then again at Parkview Church. You are an incredible and inspiring individual Darin… Thank you for being there. GOD BLESS YOU…

    1. Awesome awesome Jim.. you and I are both headed in the right direction for sure.. Great move on going to Parkview and helping people.. I need to do that too.. I love you buddy..

  3. That’s gotta feel good to get all of that off of your chest…and it must have been a ton if it was weighing on a chest the size of yours. ☺ Spend more time with your daughters, nothing matters more than they do. We’re your friends and we know how selfless you are, we can wait another week or two for the next video. Put those that are most dear to you first and the rest will take care of itself. Thanks for all you do for us man, it is hugely appreciated. Now, get busy living your life the way it deserves to be lived and lead by example…we’re watching you ya know.

    “Be extra kind to those around you, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle”

  4. You are not alone, Darin. I know that doesn’t make it any easier. Just have perseverance. I’m struggling too, not always but I have bouts of struggles. The truth will indeed set you free.

    1. Thanks for the feedback Elaine.. it does help to hear that.. I am sure that no one is exempt from feelings like this occasionally..

  5. Darrin, you had me really worried for a few minutes as I saw your email and started watching the first part of your video. I thought maybe you were going to convey that you had some terminal disease or that you were going bankrupt or that you were going to be getting out of the personal training / fitness business or that you had committed some criminal act and were going to prison.

    I am so glad that all of those are not the case. I am also glad that you had the courage to talk about the difficulties you have experienced with such openness and honestly. I truly love that about you! As you said, we have all been through tough times at some point in our lives, so you my friend are not alone. We are family and should always be there for one another because that is what truly what makes a difference in life; friendship and family.

    I too was on top of the world with an awesome job, a palatial house, two beautiful children and a marriage of 27 years to the woman I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Long story short, she left me after 27 years. I woke up and she was gone, my car was gone, half of my possessions and my bank account were gone as well. What I was left with are my two children. Which is the most valuable possession she left behind, and the only one that really mattered. Needless to say, I was devastated and even more so were my children. I lost my job due to depression, I had to put my home up for sale to settle the divorce, I got deathly ill and ended up in the hospital and almost lost my life. But here is the good part; I survived and I have my kids and the love of my children and I met and married an absolutely wonderful woman and life is better now than before. The good Lord works in strange ways… Love you man!

    1. Hey Rick,
      Amen brother.. a divorce can tears us down for sure.. it is our dream to create a great life for our family.. that is what we were born to do.. I am so glad you bounced back too buddy.. I am still looking for love.. I love myself more now than ever.. so I beleive that will help me find love.. I love you too buddy

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